So if you’ve been following along to recent blogs you’ll understand that while I’ve been attempting to minimize stress to help to reset my totally out of whack hormones and bring my body to some form of normal, I’ve also just lived through the most stressful experience of my life so far (the diagnosis and treatment of my husband’s cancer).
But, my husband is well on his way to recovery now and thankfully his cancer was removable via surgery and so we are certain he will not have to do any further treatments at this time. Since he’s on the mend, it’s a great time to explore what exactly I can do to try to reverse some of the damage from the stress of the past few months on my mental and physical state!
Since we humans tend to start with the easy stuff, I’ve decided to tackle my physical state first before I venture into figuring out what emotionally I need to regain some semblance of normal.
So, with that in mind, let’s talk about belly fat - my belly fat to be specific. For the first time in my almost 40 years, I’ve got a spare tire! I know, cry me a river right? We all have our body woes, but over the years my flat belly has actually provided me some sense of relief and pride. While my oh-so-practical child bearing hips did help me wiz through the delivery of my two children, finding pants to fit them along with my thunder thighs is often a challenge. To top this off, my larger bottom is most certainly exaggerated due to the less than abundant top I’ve also been blessed with. I’ve learned to appreciate my pear shape despite the massive gap at the back of my pants, but that’s not the complete situation now. With fly buttons popping and no shirt baggy enough to hang flowingly without resting on my unmistakably unflat belly, needless to say I’ve been feeling like I’m at a bit of a loss about how this happened and how to go back.
Listen ladies, I’m going to admit right here and now that I was a judgy, thin girl at one point in my life. Seriously, isn’t having a lean body just mind over matter I’d say to myself? Make the healthy choices and have the healthy body both in reality and when you look in the mirror. Ugg! I am sorry to all of the chubby girls I judged. Totally and completely sorry! I’m realizing now what intricate machines our bodies are there are millions of reasons why one could either get bigger or just simply not be able to get smaller! Only the right combinations of food, water, exercise and sleep are going to address an unknown food allergy, difficult emotional food attachment problems and cravings, hormonal imbalances….and the list goes on!
Here’s what age can do for a girl though. I can see the error of my ways! I don’t make excuses for any habit I may be harboring that could be contributing to the growth of this spare tire but I need to go easy on myself. For the first time in my life I’m not taking a black and white approach to my health…..part of my new formula is going to be to just simply love my body. After all, it still lets me do what I want to do and it’s strong and powerful. Yeah, it doesn’t look the same as it did 20 years ago and yeah, maybe with the right concoction of hormones and lifestyle changes I can get closer to the composition of that younger body, but until that happens, I’m going to continue to work it out and eat clean(er) all while loving what I’ve got!
I know so many of you are reading this right now thinking, yep – sounds like me……right up until the part where she says she’s going to love her body anyway, no matter where the bulges are (or how many!) But why not? Man, thinking this way feels so much better than berating myself for allowing this to happen. I actually didn’t allow anything…..life happened, and here I am, exactly where I’m supposed to be. Is it possible to create a healthy formula that is more about feeling good than looking good? What sort of parameters would need to be put in place to ensure I’m not kidding myself if I’m going to do this?
Well, for starters – no more scale! I have not weighed myself in many many months. I suspect in the beginning it was due to fear…..really just NOT wanting to see the number on that scale. But now, as I venture into a new fitness formula that consists of more strength training and a little bit of yoga, I’m still avoiding the scale. I refuse to let a number define how I’m going to feel about my day!
The second typical measure of health and fitness success that you often hear about is less easy to avoid. How do I feel in my clothes? Well, I’ve been implementing my new fitness routine for 4 weeks now and have been drinking more water and consciously choosing my foods (both the good and the not so good) ….it’s a fact that this week I actually contemplated unbuttoning my pants while sitting at my desk in the office. Yep…..that most certainly would be a first! My pants were not purchased with belly fat in mind!!! It’s really difficult to ignore the changes in my body when each item of clothing in my closet is not nearly as comfortable as it once was. I suspect a shopping trip is in my near future. I want to FEEL good in my clothes – so if I’m doing my part by getting enough sleep, hydrating, eating clean AND exercising, my freakin clothes have to feel good on my body so I’m going to buy some that fit! Gone are the days of stuffing myself into pants that don’t fit well as motivation to “get healthy”.
Even though I spew practical advice throughout this site to help you actually take action to make changes, I’m realizing that sometimes the biggest change that really needs to be made is just in your head.
Lessons seem to be many these days! I’ve got a couple other blog ideas relating to my formula for life that are linked to some lessons learned lately (maybe I’m becoming so wise because I’ll be 40 years old in a few short months!) Look forward to those upcoming blog posts to see if my lessons could help you in creating a formula that works for you right now – but in the meantime, if your body is changing, and you can’t put your finger on why it’s happening…..while you may want to talk to a medical professional about what’s going on for you, having a formula for your health that is independent of how you look is absolutely something that is worthwhile pursuing! Your main job is to feel good, so your formula should be designed with that in mind (not your pants size!)
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I really enjoyed writing this post ladies, and I can't wait to share more of my "lessons learned" as I tweak and improve upon my own formula for life.