This week I started planning for the 2016 Your Formula for Life guest blog program. I really want to get a list of 52 fabulous ladies down on paper so I can move away from planning and back to focusing on production!
When I consider my life and why it generally feels so rich and satisfying, I come back to simple principles: Enjoy the moment. Be grateful for what is. Don’t yearn for what could/would/should be. And don’t spend a lot of energy caring about what people think.
When Kelly first asked me to be a guest blogger for Your Formula For Life a few thoughts ran through my head. First, “Whoo-freakin’-hoo, Kelly must think I have my sh*t together”! (hee hee); second, “LOL!” and third, “OMG, now what!?” I am definitely not what I would consider to be an organized person, but somehow I do manage my life. Now, how do I manage my life?? Hmmm, this is not an easy topic to clearly articulate in a blog post! You see, I'm currently sitting on a bus filled with 11 year old boys, who just played a hockey game in Hamilton, have obviously snuck far too many Halloween treats into their pockets without their parents/coaches knowing and are on a loud high from winning their game. This is a glimpse into my everyday life….. But, alas, I have an hour and a bit to write this blog, and this, my friends, is how I manage my time, *wink, wink*!
I have never felt comfortable defining my personal aspirations in great detail. As a professional, I actually felt guilty when someone asked me where I wanted to be in five or ten years and I didn’t have a specific answer. I no longer feel this pressure because I eventually realized what truly motivates me and makes me happy.
When Claire was born, as all of you mamas know, my whole life changed in an instant. For a long while I was just coping with the lack of sleep, the demands of this perfect little person who needed me 24/7, and an unfortunate case of postpartum depression. It was a very challenging time for me. I had to get a handle on my life again and reflect on who I was now, not just as Shannon but as a mom.
It turns out that I have many ideas of things I want to do both on a regular basis and as special events….and all things that do not relate to work! Don’t get me wrong – I have not found a perfect work-life balance and I don’t think I ever will 100% of the time. I do still find it stressful to put my work down when there is more that I feel should be done, even when the list of things that should be done in a given time period isn’t reasonable. Just like most people at my stage of life, I still have a long to do list at work and at home, I’m still tired, I still feel too busy and I still believe that there has to be better way to handle daily life. I’m just doing better at it than I ever have before.
Never did I imagine I would be sitting down on a Friday night to write a blog post, and to boot, I never imagined it would be for a guest blogger spot! My inclination when Kelly's first request came through was that I'm no blogger so I certainly can't be someone's guest at it!
Our family mantra is simple and direct: ”Your life is exactly the way you want it to be!” I hope you aren’t offended by my bluntness, but there you have it. When my husband and I got engaged 15 years ago, we sat down and discussed what we wanted out of our soon-to-be life together. We thought about the specific things that would make us happiest. We decided we wanted a home, a child, a cottage on the lake and to retire at 50!