I’ve been referring to September as my mini-new year. Maybe it feels like this to me each year because we take much of our vacation in the summer months when the kids are out of school to spend time at our cottage in northern Ontario. By the time “back to school” rolls around – it generally means back to work for an extended period of time for me without any vacation days. This “mini-new year” often consists of promises to myself about getting back into routine (you know, similar to the promises we all make to ourselves at the real New Year).
So today I wanted to share with you some of the promises I’ve made to myself:
- I promise that I’m going to tweak my formula at work so I’m not spending all day in my inbox – I need to get more done in less time, so I have to assess the time drains and put a cork in them!
- I promise that I’m going to rewire my brain when it comes to food so I can once again make the healthier choices most of the time. Vacation may feel like a time to splurge, but this mini-new year is about remembering how whole foods make my body feel better.
- Lastly, I promise that I’m going to make YFFL insanely useful to all of you!
While there most certainly is merit to promise #1 & #2 – I’m still diving into the formula changes I need to make successfully so I can share with you how that all shakes out for me. But for #3, I’ve been giving a lot of thought to the content I most want to share with you over the next several months.
Honestly, the events of my personal life since May of this year have caused me to not be in a space where I was much good at helping others with managing their day-to-day. Suddenly, the day- to-day just didn’t matter. You might think that this would be a new perspective gained through the experience that I’d carry with me as we move forward. But you know what? Even though our family has survived cancer, the day-to-day shit still has to get done. It still makes sense to know how to manage the responsibilities of life in the most efficient way possible and in a way that suits.
Let me define for you the reader of this blog (in my eyes). You are an unbelievably fabulous woman (of course!) but you are sick of always feeling overwhelmed, stressed and tired. Most days there is too much to do and not enough time. You are buried in “shoulds” – I should clean my house, I should workout, I should be more efficient at work so I can be more productive, I should read to my kids every day, I should walk the dog, I should go visit my parents…..but where to start? It’s all just too much and you are thinking you just may have to accept that this is how life is for now. Just put your head down and make it through. There will be time down the road for you……just….. for….. you. But, is this how you want to live right now? Are you sick of waiting for “down the road”?
I want to help you dig your way out of that mountain of “shoulds”.
I call myself a Life System Design Strategist. I know, I know…. right now you are thinking “wtf is that?!” And no, I’m not also a mind reader. :) Here’s the thing, I believe we all have been given a gift in this life. I’m very clear that my gift is to take any goal, break it down, research methods of achieving it and then through trial and error test those methods until I find the one that works for me. While of course this ability to get things done was important to my educational success and career success – where I really thrive, is when I’m using it to tweak and improve upon how I manage my responsibilities.
While I love a full life, I literally loath the word “hustle”. I do not want to hustle at anything. Nothing makes me more stressed than feeling like there is not enough time to do all that I want to do and do it well. I decided many years ago that I did not want to settle with my head down, nose to the grindstone, just making it through this busy stage of life and then wake up and enjoy everything around me when I was older. Nope! I want to enjoy right now! I want to continue up the corporate ladder, I want to be involved in my children’s lives, I want to volunteer for organizations I believe in, I want to have a fuckin awesome relationship with my husband, I want to have a neat and tidy home, I want time with a network of ladies that are so freakin awesome I feel grateful to have them in my life, I want to pursue passion projects and I want downtime…..lots of it! Accepting that I can’t have it all is so depressing and just not in my DNA!
I’ve discovered the big secret to having it all ladies…..you ready for this? Figure out your “want” list (just like I did above)……and identify the easy shit, and then create a system that’s so efficient for getting the easy shit done, that it’s simply an afterthought that consumes very little of your energy and voila, you’ve just created enough space to fill with the better shit – like passion projects or a freakin bubble bath for heaven’s sake!
So, what’s my definition of the easy shit……?
- a system for keeping my house clean
- a system for staying on top of my small to-do’s like practice drop off; permission form signing and volunteer duties
- a system for paying my bills and managing our cash flow
- a system for fitting in fitness
- a system for eating clean(er)
- And even a system for fitting in downtime.
A system is not a complicated concept – it’s simply the way that you do things so that you don’t really have to think about it. I work out at this time every day….. I eat this for breakfast…… I pay my bills and check my bank account this many times a week…… I spend 30 minutes a day cleaning my house…. I write it into my to-do list as soon as I think of something that needs to be done and allocate a deadline to it….. You see where I’m going folks? The system is just the way you do things. Nail the system and you instantly drop a mountain of “shoulds” because it’s all figured out, scheduled and planned. You know how you are going to fit it all in and have extra time for everything you really want to do!
Let me give you a real life example of how this works. Recently I’ve had to add so much more into my day-to-day – and probably to a life you’d already perceive was pretty full to begin with. When my husband was diagnosed with cancer, we cancelled our cleaning service knowing he would be home recovering from surgery for several months. He was also basically down and out for many, many weeks – so I took over his share of the household duties and kid responsibilities. It was certainly a lot that I added to my plate, but I was able to create a system to fit it all in, and now I can honestly say that things are running very smoothly at home with me balancing the bulk of the responsibilities all on my own.
That is why I know with certainty that whatever you want to do, change, or tweak in your own life is absolutely possible.
Over the next several months I’m going to focus on providing content to you that’s strictly about managing your day to day. It’s the small shit that you need to nail down in an efficient little system, and I know exactly how to help you do that. So – stay tuned as YFFL veers away from big, in depth observations on life as a woman seeking to having it all, and dives deep into the day to day and how I can be insanely useful at making yours easier!