Something Isn't Working

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Guest post by Jodi McLean:

I have all these things I want in my life and goals I want to achieve, but there is only so much time in the day and I don’t want to compromise on ANY of them!! I get something different from these various social, faith related, creative and health focused aspects of my life and I believe they help me life a full life.

Combining my eclectic interests with my constant craving for stability and order has been an ongoing struggle in my adult life. Like anyone, I go through ebbs and flows. There are times when I’m in a really healthy routine, but not working many hours. Then when work is going well and has picked up I realize I’m getting more slack on what I’m eating, not moving enough and oh ya, I haven’t showered in 4 days!

When those ruts happen I can get really down on myself, and I know sometimes people can stay in those ruts for extended periods of time. Maybe you’re in a rut now. Feeling like you’re failing in your health, your relationship or your career. I want to tell you what I tell myself during these ruts.

“Something isn’t working and that’s okay. What can you tweak and try tomorrow?”

That’s the good news - you can start fresh tomorrow! Think about your day or your week and think about what you can tweak to get you closer to your goal.

My suggestion would be to start small and to remember it will take more than one day to have it engrained in your formula. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you plan to go for a walk in the early morning but you hit snooze the first day. Start fresh again the next day and if after a couple of days you are still hitting snooze then maybe that tweak wasn’t right for you. Give evening walks a try instead ;)

Another thing that has really helped me in tweaking my formula as I slip into ruts is a quote I’ve heard from Gretchen Rubin,

Ideally our family would eat 100% organic and I’d make it all from scratch. We actually were doing just that when I was off on my maternity leave but once I got back to work we slipped into a rut again. In the blink of an eye we were picking up Little Cesar’s Pizza on our way home from work because neither of us had grabbed meat out of the freezer in the morning to thaw or could wrap our heads around cooking when we got home.

We made a tweak by focusing on our desire to eat at home and cook for ourselves again. We decided, even if it’s not organic OR from scratch, it’s going to be the cheaper, healthier option over take out. With a refocus on meal planning and coordinating our grocery list with that meal plan, we’ve put ourselves in the position of making it more likely that we will cook at home.

If you’re reading this and you are bummed about how something is going in your life and starting to throw yourself a pity party or being really hard on yourself, why don’t you hit pause and try to redirect that energy productively.

Reflect on your day and think about what tweak you could try tomorrow. Maybe try changing the time of the day, maybe you need to be realistic and simplify your goal, maybe you need an accountability partner? Regardless, keep tweaking your formula, observe how the changes fits for a few days or a week, and then reevaluate.  Is this working for you, or do you need to tweak some more?

You know how life is, once you get a good rhythm going something will change. And that’s okay. Just make the appropriate tweak, offer yourself some grace, and start fresh again tomorrow.


Jodi is a wife to Patrick and mother of Grace (1). She works as an EA and Support Worker and couldn’t list her interests here because the list would be too long!

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